A Better Way To Do It

On one of the groups I am a member of, one of the members posted this.  It sums it up perfectly:

Dear married beloveds,

Ok so the possibility is that someday you may decide you want to work on your marriage again.Thats the risk we take. We know they are there. We know they are a priority to you. Some of us may even understand if you need to leave us behind. But for what we have been to you, talk to us. Even though we know when you make that decision its going to hurt us, give us an option of being part of that decision making so we can support you .. or thank you....not to do it leaves us wounded and feeling like its our fault, something we did or didn't do. And God forbid, a text message leaves us in shock. The not knowing why hurts more than an honest goodbye..... we may be your secrets but we are worth your time even at the end.

I know its hard to say goodbye, but give us the way to grieve and end it.